While I was contemplating what were the factors in writing heartfelt mother of the bride speeches, I started thinking about my role as the mother of the bride. I found that being the mother of the bride was really bitter sweet. It’s what most mothers and daughters have looked forward to sharing their whole lives.
Your daughter will most likely look to you for advice. Like most daughters, sometimes she’ll take it – sometimes she won’t. The one thing I needed to remember was that it was Jennifer’s day and she most likely will want to put her special stamp on this special event. We also shared many moments, from helping Jennifer pick out her dress, how to style her hair, and even who will sit next to whom at the reception.
Of course, some of the decisions didn’t involve me at all, but ended up being decided between her and her future husband. I found that the perfect way to express my feelings about Jennifer was crafting a “perfect” mother of the bride speech.
I discovered that taking the time and effort to find the best resources to get you started on your wedding speech, and following them step-by-step like I did, you really can craft a great mother of bride speech. Of course, you’ll not only want to avoid embarrassing your daughter, but will want to express your love and appreciation for having her in your life and letting her know how much she means to you.
You’ll wish her blessings on her new marriage and be able to extend your gift of support for the new happy couple. In short, I found that this is a very important wedding speech. Quite truthfully, it may be the only time you’ll have everyone’s attention to express your thanks and appreciation.
Most importantly, I learned that making sure that you have all of the components covered in your wedding speech, and that nobody is forgotten, is essential. Knowing that there is a business end and an emotional end to mother of the bride speeches is critical and certainly is something that the proper outline and resources will walk you through.
For example, expressing how happy I was that my daughter had found such a wonderful husband and listing all of his fabulous qualities will certainly fall flat if you don’t acknowledge the parents that made him possible. Equally awful would be to forget to mention that special relative that has gone above and beyond, or made a long trip in order to be there just for the happy couple.
But what it all came down to for me was finding the right resource that helped me prepare a well thought out, heartfelt mother of the bride speech. I plan to share with other mother’s of the bride the tips and resources that I found the most helpful in the speech writing process.
Bottom line – this speech is just too important to you and your daughter not to give it the proper time and attention. Remember: well-delivered mother of the bride speeches can make all the difference in how this special day is remembered.
During my research, I found some great information about the different parts of a successful mother of the bride speech. Not that you need to include every component in your wedding speech, but the more that you can fit in, the better your chances of impressing the wedding guests with a heartfelt speech.
Components Of Mother Of The Bride Speeches
Here is what I discovered regarding the basic components of a fantastic mother of the bride speech:
1) Be Sure To Introduce Yourself – You may be a stranger to some of the wedding guests.
2) A Heartfelt Welcome – Welcome your new son-in-law into your family using a adorable story about when you met him for the first time.
3) Talk About Your Daughter – Remember her as a little girl, while attending school, and close with a story of how she has matured and changed for the better after meeting the groom.
4) Recognize The Bride’s Siblings – If the bride has siblings, why not include a few nice words about the special relationships she has with them.
5) Discuss The Bride And Groom – Discuss how the bride and groom compliment each other and why they make a lovely couple.
6) Acknowledge The Groom’s Parents – This is the time to recognize the groom’s parents and welcome them into the family.
7) Special Thanks – Here is the opportunity to thank anyone with special participation in the wedding, but be sure to get the bride’s concurrence.
Toast The New Bride And Groom – Here is where you end your Mother of the Bride Speech with a wonderful toast to your daughter, the Bride, and the Groom.
Note: I found the following video that I thought was a touching example of how a Mother Of The Bride speech should cover all the components of a great wedding speech.
When my daughter asked me to participate in her wedding reception by giving a mother of bride speech, I panicked! I really didn’t know where to start or what to say. After some research, I found very limited information regarding mother of the bride speeches. However, I did find a resource that was geared specifically toward writing and giving a mother of the bride speech. I was able to follow instructions step-by-step and create what I considered was a dynamite wedding speech.
Although I could have gone on and on about different family happenings throughout the year, or describe every detail of my daughters life, the advise I got from this resource helped me focus my speech on the most important parts of the day and especially the special couple.
Most importantly I was able to develop my speech, refine it and practice it a couple of times before the big event. I credit this mother of the bride speech guide with my delivering a successful speech, as well as, keeping me on track and controlling any emotional outbursts. My speech was a great success, even if I say so myself!
I found that giving mother of the bride speeches are done in all different styles and themes, so I needed to decide which one was right for me. Some advice online that I really took to heart was to remember that the day belongs to the bride. This is her special day and the bride should be treated respectfully without the worry of hearing embarrassing stories from her childhood.
Here are a number of mother of the bride speech tips that will ensure that your special speech is a big hit with the wedding guests, and more importantly, the bride:
- Mother of the bride speeches should never contain any jokes or antidotes that embarrass the bride or are at her expense.
- Don’t include stories that will evoke any really sad memories that might take away from the upbeat mood of the wedding day.
- If you decide to make an attempt at humor in your wedding speech, be aware of your “joke telling” abilities. Knowing my own shortcomings, like not being a really good joke teller, I decided it wouldn’t be a great idea to debut my first comedic routine on my lovely daughter’s wedding day.
- You may want to mention those who have recently passed or were too ill to attend the wedding. This is a nice way of recognizing those who are important in some way to the bride who could not attend.
Wedding Speech Do's And Don'ts
So, in my search for the appropriate style and theme for me, I discovered a resource that provided various examples of mother of the bride wedding speeches in different categories (Humorous, Tributes, Emotional, Family Stories, etc.) that helped me tremendously. It also provided a host of other helpful advice for preparing my wedding speech and provided quotes and anecdotes that were perfect for inclusion in my speech. It also included mother of the bride toast suggestions.
With the help of this very affordable package, I opted for a mother of the bride speech that included all of the proper components, and focused on extolling the virtues of my wonderful new son-in-law and his family. I also included a few touching antidotes about my beautiful daughter.
It was my personal tribute to her and the joy that she has brought into our lives. It included my personal wish for a wonderful life with her new husband. I’m happy to say that as mother of the bride speeches go, mine was a hit, with misty eyes all around, as well as my daughter’s, the bride!
Where in the wedding program do you schedule the mother of the bride speech? Wow, I didn’t realize that the order of the wedding speeches was going to cause such a problem. When I went online for some advice, I found that there were definitely different opinions on the order of where brides placed the mother of the bride speeches.
There were a large number of brides who chose to do their wedding speeches first. I was hoping that my daughter would let her father and I go first. It’s not that we wanted to get our speeches out of the way, but we were hosting the event so when she agreed to let us go first it was a really nice opening to the whole wedding program.
When Do You Give Your Mother Of The Brides Speech?
A few of the responses I received when I posted a question on a popular bridal site definitely leaned toward not wanting to become emotional over the other wedding speeches, and then having to pull themselves together for the big Mother of the Bride’s speech at the end. I tend to be pretty emotional, especially when my only daughter was getting married, so going first made life a lot easier for me.
One key bit of advice from everyone I talked to, including the responses from my post, was to absolutely make sure that the Master of Ceremonies knows exactly what order the wedding speeches are to be given. My wonderful daughter took care of everything!
I’m so glad that Jennifer planned for my mother of the bride speech to be given first. Aside from the fact that I did get emotional over the other wedding speeches, it was so nice to just sit back and enjoy. Now deciding what to say in my wedding speech was a whole other story!
The question I asked myself when helping plan my daughter’s wedding was; “Should I be giving a Mother of Bride Speech?” Well, the truth is that my daughter is a modern woman and is intent on both having a pretty traditional wedding and giving her own bridal speech.
As the wedding got closer, I started doing some research on Mother of the Bride speeches. I know that in the traditional Victorian past, it was only the men that did the speaking (i.e. grooms speech, father of the bride speech), so I wanted some feedback on whether or not modern day Mothers of the Bride were doing wedding speeches.
Mother of the Bride's Speech - To Do or Not To Do?
My first inclination was to stick to the traditional program, mostly because I wanted to be able to sit back and enjoy the entire wedding experience, including the other wedding speeches, without worrying about giving a Mother of the Bride’s speech of my own. However, I read a lot of feedback from other mother’s of the bride and finally came to the conclusion that I should and would prepare and give my own wedding speech.
So, the first thing I did was fire up my laptop and search for advice on preparing my wedding speech. The nagging question that I needed answers to was; “What should I talk about in my mother of bride speech?” The good news was that I did find some helpful resources that made sense, and that was for the mother to introduce herself and welcome her new son-in-law and his parents into the bride’s family. One particular resource I found not only provided wedding speech examples for each wedding party member, but provided a fill-in-the-blank template that made the preparation of my Mother of the Bride speech a breeze.
A slightly different twist on the whole wedding speech dilemma was to determine whether a combined Mother and Father of the Bride speech could be an option. I thought it might be interesting to do our speeches together and not have to worry about overlapping content. But after discussing it with my husband we decided that it would be better to do separate speeches, and coordinate the content so that we didn’t overlap.
The bottom line was that it really turned out to be the right decision! My Mother of Bride speech and the Father of Bride speech were both special and unique tributes to our daughter from our own personal perspectives.
This is me, Audra Wycliff, with my daughter, Jennifer, at her recent wedding. It was one of the happiest days of my life, but just a few weeks earlier, I was worried sick about writing my mother-of-the-bride speech and the thought of embarrassing myself and more importantly, Jennifer. This is my story of how I found a stress-free solution!